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“Time is a Vast Ocean of Opportunity – Learn to Sail!” – Dr. Sue
TIME MANAGEMENT: De-Stress Your Life!
Have you ever thought about how much stress comes from lack of time? Feeling time pressured makes us impatient, accident-prone, irritable, a pain to others – and ourselves. We make hasty, poor decisions, misplace and lose things, miss opportunities, and don’t enjoy the luxury of the time we do – or can have. Here are a few tips to manage our time – and have a happier life.
“Last grain in an hourglass – more precious than gold!” – Dr. Sue Happiness Habit: Time Management
Prioritize what needs to be done – your deadlines – and do that first. “Do what you have to do so you can do what you get to do.” – a wise father’s advice from the film The Great Debaters
Make a Goals/Task List: Write down your Goals. Under each goal, write the tasks you need to do in order to accomplish it – your To-Do list. If you don’t do it immediately, write it someplace that you will check or where there is a pop up reminder. That way it won’t prey on your mind while it’s waiting to get done. When you do each task, check it off, and turn your To-Do into a To-Done. When you get your goal give yourself a treat and celebrate! To-Do – To-Done – Ta-Dah! – “Mile by mile, it’s hard to smile; yard by yard – still feels feels hard; inch by inch – it’s a cinch! “
Start Early: Allow extra time for you and everyone else to make mistakes. Things can go wrong – and will! Technical glitches, traffic jams, stalling trains, not being able to find your keys or glasses, accidents – expect the unexpected – and allow extra time so you won’t get stressed. If you finish early, you can always do something else while you’re waiting, or just relax and enjoy a treat. Booking early allows you to take advantage of early bird deadlines and save money. Making your deadlines on time or early endears you to teachers, bosses, clients, and publishers.
Get Your Stuff Together: What ingredients, clothes,accessories, work materials do you need – to get out the door, keep that appointment, take that trip, and get that job done? Put the stuff together that goes together – not scattered in unrelated bits – it will be easier to find. Get it all together and lay it out in advance. You’ll find out what you need and what you need to fix – with a whole lot less stress. As the scouts say, “Be prepared!”
The Magic of While.… Set one thing in motion while you accomplish something else. For example, start your laundry before you do something else, when you’re done, it’s done. Mail letters and packages – even Emails, then do something else. Many people love crock pots and slow cookers for this reason – it’s doing its thing – and ready when you are!
Multi-Task: You know that Indian goddess with multiple arms? These days she would be on her cell phone closing a deal, doing a power walk around the coffee table, zipping up, writing on a Facebook wall, Tweeting, and microwaving a dinner (to be eaten in front of the computer). If you see yourself in any one of these multi-mirrors, than you’ve already figured out that multi-tasking gets you more bang for your buck, time wise. The trick is when to turn it off. That means – no cell phones while driving. (Think about it – do months in the hospital as a result of a traffic accident really save time? Is the guilt and remorse over injuring or killing a driver because you were too distracted to concentrate really worth it?) Also no cell phone in public spaces where other people want to focus on other things – like the performance on stage or screen, the classwork, the view – or the romantic date who wants to look deep in your eyes…and is distracted by the blue tooth in your ear!
Take stuff off your plate – If you don’t need to do it and don’t want to do it – don’t! This means sometimes saying no to friends, family members, co-workers, social acquaintances, etc. Set limits without guilt, arguing, blaming, or sighing like a martyr. Yes, I know it’s a challenge. So ask yourself a few questions – Is this necessary? Is this helpful? Is this really my job? Is this fun? If not – clean your plate!
None of us manage time perfectly, including me. When you slip – don’t forget to laugh at yourself and at rigid rules about time (or anything else) and customize my tips for yourself!
“Punctuality – a Point of View” by Dr. Sue
The early bird get the worm – this I have often heard
The early worm gets eaten first – isn’t that absurd?
Is being punctual so wise? It’s all in point of view -
If you’re a bird – yes indeed! If you’re a worm – not true!
Hugs 2 U Dr. Sue
Dr. Susan Horowitz (aka Dr. Sue) is a Motivational Speaker, Media Host, Singer-Songwriter “CD: Dr. Sue “Keys of Love” , Author of “Queens of Comedy” (Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Ellen DeGeneres etc.) “Read with Me” (Children’s Book of the Month Club), “I Am Loved” (Inspirational Poetry) Blog: HOW TO BE HAPPY IF (http://drsue3.wordpress.com)
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