Happiness Habit: Dancing

Maxing out your joy and minimizing the impact of upsets are learned skills. My blog is based on the belief we can learn from the experts – and each other. Circumstances may differ, but they often reflect common basic truths. Happiness is a Habit – we can all learn how and practice.  Post your questions and comments, and I’ll try to show you how you be happy if…

Happiness Habit: Dancing

How can you build your body,  look fabulous, enhance your social savvy, and carry on several mini love affairs in public with no consequences?

Go dancing!

It’s an aerobic workout that puts a smile on your face.  As for looking fabulous, social savvy and love affairs, here are a few thoughts and tips.

Dress for sex-cess!  That means look good and feel good!

Clean and groomed is always in.  Ballroom can mean gowns and jewels – but it doesn’t have to. In more casual settings, ladies wear tank tops and T’s.  Personally, I like skirts that swirl and some shine, sparkle, swing or color in tops or earrings. I also have a few cute T-shirts that say “Dance” in sequined script – great for dancing and as go-anywhere conversation starters.

You can also dress to impress-  from cocktail frocks to competitive ballroom dance gowns. Just remember, you will be dancing, so allow for freedom of movement, breathing, and perspiration.  Some ladies suffer for beauty.  Personally, I’m not happy if something’s digging into my ribs or pinching my waist.

What about shoes?  If you love to dance, invest in at least one good pair of dance shoes. You need support, comfort, flexibility, and good movement on the floor – some grip/some slide. How high the heel?  That depends on your own height and tolerance for pain. Remember – nobody looks good when her feet hurt – or with a twisted ankle!

(It also depends on the type of dancing. I like heels for ballroom – but they killed my feet when I went contra dancing. I was much happier in light walking shoes.)

One more thing, no matter how good you look, what other people care about is how good they look!  So be generous with your compliments – to your partners, potential partners, and members of your dance community.   And if you can’t be nice, be discrete. Vent where it’s private – and away from the dance floor.

And love the one you’re with!

Smile at your partner! Compliment your partner and say how much you enjoyed the dance!

Learn from other people’s mis-steps- and I don’t mean your feet!

One guy told me about dancing with a lady who commented about another man who was a great dancer. He didn’t say anything – but that was the last time he asked her to dance! One lady told me about a man who kept looking around to check out the other women in the room while he was dancing with her. So it’s not just how you look – it’s where – and when you’re dancing that means – in your partner’s eyes!

We seem to be moving into the section on social savvy and mini affairs – where there is lots to say!

So, to be continued…

Happiness Habits

  • Do what you love! (in this case, dancing)
  • Wear clothes and shoes that feel look, look good, and suit the occasion
  • Create a community of friends and activity partners – here are a few tips –
  • Be generous with your compliments
  • Pay attention to the person you’re with and don’t make or imply negative comparisons by comments or looks

“No matter what the music, learn how to dance!”
Hugs 2 U Dr. Sue
Dr. Susan Horowitz (aka Dr. Sue) is a Motivational Speaker, Media Host, Singer-Songwriter “CD: Dr. Sue “Keys of Love” , Author of “Queens of Comedy” (Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Ellen DeGeneres etc.) “Read with Me” (Children’s Book of the Month Club), “I Am Loved” (Inspirational Poetry) “Blog: HOW TO BE HAPPY IF”
copyright 2010 Dr. Susan Horowitz (aka Dr. Sue)

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